<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?>
<rss version="2.0"
	xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/"
	xmlns:wfw="http://wellformedweb.org/CommentAPI/"
	xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/"
	xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom"
	xmlns:sy="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/syndication/"
	xmlns:slash="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/slash/"
	>

<channel>
	<title> &#187; Pastor</title>
	<atom:link href="http://pastorforlife.org/category/pastor/feed/" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml" />
	<link>http://pastorforlife.org</link>
	<description></description>
	<lastBuildDate>Tue, 20 Apr 2010 21:29:29 +0000</lastBuildDate>
	<generator>http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2</generator>
	<language>en</language>
	<sy:updatePeriod>hourly</sy:updatePeriod>
	<sy:updateFrequency>1</sy:updateFrequency>
			<item>
		<title>Looking For Your Next Place Of Ministry?</title>
		<link>http://pastorforlife.org/looking-for-your-next-place-of-ministry/</link>
		<comments>http://pastorforlife.org/looking-for-your-next-place-of-ministry/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 20 Apr 2010 19:01:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Paul</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Change]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Communication]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Leadership]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pastor]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Resignations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Transitions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[churches looking for pastors]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[DJ Chuang]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastoral search]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastoral search committee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pastoral search help]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastors looking for churches]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://pastorforlife.org/?p=393</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[
			
				
			
		
DJ Chuang has an awesome list of ministries that re helping pastors match churches they can serve and churches find their right pastor as well. While I copy the entire post here for convenience, I encourage you to check out DJ&#8217;s blog for other awesome material!
Churches are searching for pastors. Pastors are looking for churches. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="tweetmeme_button" style="float: left; margin-right: 10px;">
			<a href="http://api.tweetmeme.com/share?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Flooking-for-your-next-place-of-ministry%2F"><br />
				<img src="http://api.tweetmeme.com/imagebutton.gif?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Flooking-for-your-next-place-of-ministry%2F&amp;source=pastorforlife&amp;style=normal" height="61" width="50" /><br />
			</a>
		</div>
<p>DJ Chuang has an awesome list of ministries that re helping pastors match churches they can serve and churches find their right pastor as well. While I copy the entire post here for convenience, I encourage you to check out DJ&#8217;s blog for other awesome material!</p>
<p>Churches are searching for pastors. Pastors are looking for churches.  Making the connection can be quite challenging for many on both sides  of the equation. Sure there’s a spiritual dimension to all of this–  being a pastor is a “calling,” (whatever that might mean in a particular  faith tradition) layered with much prayer for discernment and  provision. Yet in the real-world concrete and tangible reality, there is  that job component, when a church pastor is a paid religious  professional.</p>
<p>There are a bunch of search engines / directories/ listings working  to make this connection, for pastors looking for a ministry opportunity,  and for churches looking for a pastor to fill a staff position, along  with other church staff jobs. I’ll update this list as I find ‘em —  (note: listing does not connote endorsement) ::</p>
<ul>
<li><a href="http://www.churchstaffing.com/" target="_blank">ChurchStaffing.com</a> – a  leading source” run by Salem Web Network; free registration required to  view listings and resumes; <a href="http://www.churchstaffing.com/JobSeeker/Pricing.aspx" target="_blank">~60,000  subscribers</a> to weekly newsletter</li>
<li><a href="http://churchjobs.net/" target="_blank">ChurchJobs.net</a> – run by C.M.  Press; sizeable database of Christian ministry job openings and resumes  with visible web presence in search engines &amp; social networks;  pricing starts at $99.95/mo for posting a job listing; $39.95 for  posting a resume; database is mirrored to other domain names like  pastorsearchcommittee.com, christianjobs1.net, ExperiencingWorship.com,  ChurchStaffSearch.com, WorshipJobs.com</li>
<li><a href="http://www.churchjobsonline.com/" target="_blank">www.churchjobsonline.com</a> – a division of ChristianCareerCenter.com; listing pricing starts at <a href="http://www.churchjobsonline.com/church-staffing-resources/pricing-and-benefits" target="_blank">free</a>;  <a href="http://www.churchjobsonline.com/church-staffing-resources/pricing-and-benefits" target="_blank">~25,000  email subscribers, ~20,000 unique visitors monthly</a></li>
<li><a href="http://pastorfinder.com/" target="_blank">PastorFinder.com</a> – run by  Outreach Media Group; <a href="http://www.outreachmediagroup.com/online.htm#pf" target="_blank">~25,000 unique  visitors monthly; 74% of users are currently employed</a></li>
<li>www.pastorsearch.net – Pastor Search Network, run by <a href="http://www.victorious.org/" target="_blank">The Victorious Network</a> since 1995;  <a href="http://www.victorious.org/cgi-bin/classifieds/classifieds.pl?add_item_button=on" target="_blank">~10,000  visitors weekly</a></li>
<li><a href="http://www.ministrysearch.com/" target="_blank">ministrysearch.com</a> –   Christian ministry job positions; <a href="http://www.ministrysearch.com/faq.shtml" target="_blank">~ 7000 visits per week</a></li>
<li>at <a href="http://www.findingourplace.com/" target="_blank">findingourplace.com</a>,  Jayce Tohline has indexed even more ministers &amp; ministries listing  websites; <a href="http://www.creatormagazine.com/" target="_blank">Creator Magazine</a> has an index of <a href="http://www.creatormagazine.com/dnn/CreatorLeadershipNetwork/PositionListings/tabid/381/Default.aspx" target="_blank">web  listings for Music and Worship Ministry</a></li>
</ul>
<p>And, there are professional services that help make the connection  for churches and staff. <a href="http://helpstaff.me/" target="_blank">HelpStaff.me</a> is run by <a href="http://twitter.com/Helpstaffme" target="_blank">Justin Lathrop</a> (one of my pastor friends), who can put together a professional  nationwide search for church staff positions. Another one is <a href="http://ministersearch.com/" target="_blank">MinisterSearch.com</a>, a full-service  consulting firm for church staffing.</p>
<p>Aside: this ehow.com article, <a href="http://www.ehow.com/how_2319158_work-megachurch.html" target="_blank">How to Work  for a MegaChurch</a>, gives sobering advice about working in a church  setting. Set your idealism aside — “<a href="http://www.ehow.com/how_2319158_work-megachurch.html" target="_blank">If you think  working for a church will be peaceful and idyllic, you’re deluding  yourself. Pastors and church staff members are as inherently flawed as  the rest of the world. If your desire to work for a MegaChurch stems  from the belief that you’ll be in a conflict free office environment,  think again.</a>“</p>
]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://pastorforlife.org/looking-for-your-next-place-of-ministry/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>1</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Francis Chan Resigns Cornerstone</title>
		<link>http://pastorforlife.org/francis-chan-resigns-cornerstone/</link>
		<comments>http://pastorforlife.org/francis-chan-resigns-cornerstone/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 20 Apr 2010 06:48:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Paul</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Change]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Church life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Leadership]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pastor]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Transitions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[catalyst]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Cornerstone Community Church]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[francis chan]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastoral resignation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastoral transitions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[simi valley]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://pastorforlife.org/?p=385</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[
			
				
			
		
Popular pastor, conference speaker, and author, Francis Chan, has resigned the pastorate of the church he started 16 years ago, Cornerstone Community Church. Francis pastors in the same city I do (Simi Valley, CA), and Cornerstone is located just a mile down the street from where I pastor at NewHeart.
I&#8217;ve watched Francis grow from being [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="tweetmeme_button" style="float: left; margin-right: 10px;">
			<a href="http://api.tweetmeme.com/share?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Ffrancis-chan-resigns-cornerstone%2F"><br />
				<img src="http://api.tweetmeme.com/imagebutton.gif?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Ffrancis-chan-resigns-cornerstone%2F&amp;source=pastorforlife&amp;style=normal" height="61" width="50" /><br />
			</a>
		</div>
<p>Popular pastor, conference speaker, and author, Francis Chan, has resigned the pastorate of the church he started 16 years ago, <a href="http://www.cornerstonesimi.com/" target="_blank">Cornerstone Community Church</a>. Francis pastors in the same city I do (Simi Valley, CA), and Cornerstone is located just a mile down the street from where I pastor at <a href="http://www.enewheart.org" target="_blank">NewHeart</a>.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve watched Francis grow from being a local Youth Pastor in our city to a Lead Pastor of a very large and influential church. Cornerstone is our city&#8217;s only mega-church, technically speaking.</p>
<p><a href="http://pastorforlife.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/francischan.jpg"><img class="size-medium wp-image-386 alignright" title="francischan" src="http://pastorforlife.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/francischan-300x172.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="172" /></a>While Francis and I have not been close, we&#8217;ve know each other, have collaborated on a couple of city-wide projects and I will always appreciate his forthright manner, laid-back style and the way he fights for what he believes is right and scriptural.</p>
<p>Our city has been one of those unfortunately fraught with negative pastoral transitions in our history <em>(I pastor one of them, that has had multiple pastoral failures over the years)</em>, especially from churches that have been popular and grown to significant sizes. I am excited to see a transition take place that is NOT filled with negativity, division, pain and decline.</p>
<p>I applaud Francis for stepping out in faith into an unknown future for himself and his family. If you listen to the <a href="http://www.catalystspace.com/catablog/full/francis_chan_is_stepping_out_in_faith/" target="_blank">video interview at CatalystSpace.com</a> and <a href="http://www.cornerstonesimi.com/special/media_player.html" target="_blank">the message he delivered to his church on Sunday</a>, you&#8217;ll hear a good part of his heart and the plan ahead.</p>
<p>Interestingly, he is going to be offering some forums in May and June for Cornerstone folks to be able to ask questions about how and why things are panning out the way they are. He foresees speaking there through the end of May to re-iterate what he believes God has laid on his heart, then fulfilling a pretty heavy speaking schedule through the Summer and Fall before he takes his family on some third world missions adventures later in the year.</p>
<p><em>What are your thoughts about such a big step of faith?</em></p>
<p><strong><span style="font-size: medium;"><em>UPDATE: the below is the letter sent from Francis to Cornerstone:</em></span></strong></p>
<blockquote><p>Dear Friends,</p>
<p>For those who have not heard, this past Sunday I announced to  Cornerstone Church that I will be transitioning out of my ministry in  Simi Valley.  It was a rough Sunday as there were many different  emotions floating around the room.  In short, Lisa and I believe God is  calling us to take a step of faith.  We believe we are supposed to move  into a major city such as LA, San Francisco, or New York.  Every time I  fly into a large city, I am struck by the sheer numbers and feel pulled  to try ministering in that environment.  I encourage you to listen to  the podcast from this past weekend to hear more details.  If for no  other reason, my wife spoke some very powerful words that every believer  needs to hear.</p>
<p>It has been an amazing 16 years as pastor of Cornerstone Church.   When we started gathering, I doubt that any of us dared to dream that  God would use this church to have such an impact on Simi Valley and the  rest of the world.  I think most of us were just hoping it would  survive.  God had bigger plans than we did.  The Lord has truly shown us  His grace, that we could be used as His instruments to bring glory to  the name of Jesus.</p>
<p>The plan is that I would teach at Cornerstone through the end of May.   During this time, I will be sharing the lessons most important to me.   I have taught thousands of times over these years, and now I hope to  re-emphasize what I see as most important.  I will also be at our prayer  meetings to beg our God to do even greater things in Simi after I  leave.  For those who have questions or just want to talk, you can catch  me at the prayer meetings.</p>
<p>I’ll continue to write and give you more information as the Lord  continues to guide the elders and me.  Like I said at our services, I’m  still not completely sure of everything, but it feels great to be living  by faith.</p>
<p>Once again, here is my family’s rough plan for our future</p>
<blockquote><p>April/May = speaking at Cornerstone<br />
June/July = speaking around the U.S.<br />
August/Sept = Praying and walking large cities to seek God’s leading.<br />
Oct-Dec = Serving in a third world country<br />
Jan 2011 = launch a new ministry as an extension of Cornerstone</p></blockquote>
<p>Thanks to everyone who was a part of this amazing journey in Simi.   Thanks for all the love and encouragement my family and I have received  over the years.</p>
<p>Francis<strong><br />
</strong></p></blockquote>
]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://pastorforlife.org/francis-chan-resigns-cornerstone/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>17</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>John Piper Taking Leave</title>
		<link>http://pastorforlife.org/john-piper-taking-leave/</link>
		<comments>http://pastorforlife.org/john-piper-taking-leave/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Apr 2010 19:06:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Paul</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Communication]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emotional health]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Leadership]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pace of life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pastor]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Personal Pace]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rest]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Sabbaticals]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Bethlehem Baptist Church]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pastor John Piper]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastor self care]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastoral leave]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Sabbatical]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://pastorforlife.org/?p=380</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[
			
				
			
		
You may or may not have heard that John Piper, Pastor of Bethlehem Baptist Church in Minneapolis, Minnesota, is taking an extended 7 month long leave of absence, starting on May 1.
You can read his statement here.
You can read the Bethlehem Elder&#8217;s response here.
I commend John for taking this step to care for himself, his [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="tweetmeme_button" style="float: left; margin-right: 10px;">
			<a href="http://api.tweetmeme.com/share?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Fjohn-piper-taking-leave%2F"><br />
				<img src="http://api.tweetmeme.com/imagebutton.gif?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Fjohn-piper-taking-leave%2F&amp;source=pastorforlife&amp;style=normal" height="61" width="50" /><br />
			</a>
		</div>
<p><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-382" title="John Piper" src="http://pastorforlife.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/John-Piper.png" alt="John Piper" width="150" height="136" />You may or may not have heard that <a href="http://www.desiringgod.org/Blog/" target="_blank">John Piper</a>, Pastor of <a href="http://www.hopeingod.org/" target="_blank">Bethlehem Baptist Church in Minneapolis, Minnesota</a>, is taking an extended 7 month long leave of absence, starting on May 1.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.hopeingod.org/pastor-johns-upcoming-leave" target="_blank">You can read his statement here</a>.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.hopeingod.org/elder-response-to-pastor-johns-upcoming-leave" target="_blank">You can read the Bethlehem Elder&#8217;s response here</a>.</p>
<p>I commend John for taking this step to care for himself, his marriage, his family, his church family, and the wider Body of Christ.</p>
<p>If you&#8217;re a regular here at Pastor For Life, you know that I strongly believe in the Biblical pattern of sabbaticals and the entire concept of self-care. You can&#8217;t help others if you can&#8217;t help yourself.</p>
<p>Thoughts?</p>
]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://pastorforlife.org/john-piper-taking-leave/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>1</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Stewarding The Easter &#8220;Anointing&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://pastorforlife.org/stewarding-the-easter-anointing/</link>
		<comments>http://pastorforlife.org/stewarding-the-easter-anointing/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Apr 2010 21:02:50 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Paul</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Brokenness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Burnout]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Communication]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Depression]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emotional health]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emotionally Healthy Spirituality]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Expectations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Failure]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Leadership]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Margin]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Message Preparation]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pace of life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pastor]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Personal Pace]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Physical health]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rest]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Sabbath]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Spiritual health]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Things that drain life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Things that give life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[success]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[anointing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[church]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Easter]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pastor preparation]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://pastorforlife.org/?p=329</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[
			
				
			
		

Elijah said to Elisha, “Tell me what I can do for you  before I am  taken away.” And Elisha replied, “Please let me  inherit a  double share of your spirit and become your successor.” “You  have asked a difficult  thing,” Elijah replied. “If you see me when I  [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="tweetmeme_button" style="float: left; margin-right: 10px;">
			<a href="http://api.tweetmeme.com/share?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Fstewarding-the-easter-anointing%2F"><br />
				<img src="http://api.tweetmeme.com/imagebutton.gif?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Fstewarding-the-easter-anointing%2F&amp;source=pastorforlife&amp;style=normal" height="61" width="50" /><br />
			</a>
		</div>
<blockquote>
<p style="text-align: left;"><em>Elijah said to Elisha, “Tell me what I can do for you  before I am  taken away.” And Elisha replied, “Please let me  inherit a  double share of your spirit and become your successor.” “You  have asked a difficult  thing,” Elijah replied. “If you see me when I  am taken from you, then  you will get your request. But if not, then you  won’t.”</em></p>
<p style="text-align: left;">2 Kings 2:9-10</p>
</blockquote>
<p>The heart cry of every  Pastor, that God would give us at least as much, if not more, anointing  than those who have gone before us.</p>
<p>Interesting that Elijah tells  the young prophet that what he is asking for is hard. I think most of us  ignore that part. I did! I still do!!</p>
<p><img class="size-full wp-image-332 alignleft" title="Anointing_of_fresh_oil" src="http://pastorforlife.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/Anointing_of_fresh_oil.jpg" alt="Anointing_of_fresh_oil" width="148" height="104" /><br />
The &#8220;anointing&#8221; seems to be  on others around me, and amazing things are happening through them. It  doesn&#8217;t look that hard from the outside.</p>
<p>Better yet, I think it  not really ours to <em>get </em>the anointing. We ask and Jesus gives.</p>
<p>Some  hard lessons of pastoral and public ministry have honed in me the  belief that what is ours is to <em>steward </em>the anointing.</p>
<p>Some  seem good at seeking and getting, but not so good at stewarding it once  received. Think of any outwardly successful pastor who eventually flames  out in one way, shape or form.</p>
<p>Earlier in Elijah&#8217;s life, he  learned the hard way too that what Elisha was asking for was not easy!</p>
<blockquote><p><em>Now  Ahab told Jezebel everything Elijah had done and how he had killed  all  the prophets with the sword. So Jezebel sent a messenger to Elijah to  say, &#8220;May the gods deal with  me, be it ever so severely, if by this  time tomorrow I do not make your  life like that of one of them.&#8221;</em></p>
<p><em>Elijah  was afraid and ran for his life. When he came  to Beersheba in Judah,  he left his servant there, while he himself went a day&#8217;s journey into  the  desert. He came to a broom tree, sat down under it and prayed that  he  might die. &#8220;I have had enough, LORD,&#8221; he said. &#8220;Take my life; I am  no  better than my ancestors.&#8221; Then he lay down under the tree and fell  asleep.</em></p>
<p><em>All at once  an angel touched him and said, &#8220;Get up and  eat.&#8221; He looked around, and there by his  head was a  cake of bread baked over hot coals, and a jar of water. He  ate and drank  and then lay down again.</em></p>
<p><em>The angel of the LORD  came back a second time and touched him and said,  &#8220;Get up and eat, for  the journey is too much for you.&#8221; So he got up and ate and  drank.  Strengthened by that food, he traveled forty days and forty  nights  until he reached Horeb, the mountain of God. There he went into a cave  and  spent the night.</em></p>
<p>1 Kings 19:1-9</p></blockquote>
<p>The  lessons Elijah learned about <em>stewarding </em>the anointing were far  more simple than we imagine, mostly. Check your own anointing  stewardship against them in this way-too-busy-Easter season:</p>
<ul>
<li>What&#8217;s  your internal thought life like right now?</li>
<li>How much sleep have you given yourself this week?</li>
<li>How much time have you invested away from the church or your  office?</li>
<li>Do your spouse, kids, family, friends, know where you are and when  and what you&#8217;re doing other than &#8220;working&#8221; or &#8220;at the church&#8221;?</li>
<li>What has your diet been like this week?</li>
</ul>
<p>All just part of stewarding the anointing friends! <em><strong>What would  you add?</strong></em></p>
]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://pastorforlife.org/stewarding-the-easter-anointing/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Pastors And Pain</title>
		<link>http://pastorforlife.org/pastors-and-pain/</link>
		<comments>http://pastorforlife.org/pastors-and-pain/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Mar 2010 21:52:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Paul</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Brokenness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Church life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Church people]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emotional health]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Expectations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Failure]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Leadership]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Margin]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pace of life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pastor]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rest]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Suffering]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Things that drain life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Things that give life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[death]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[duplicity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastor expectations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastor self care]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastor's personal crisis]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastoral failure]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastoral health]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastoral stress]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastors life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ron Walters]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://pastorforlife.org/?p=326</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[
			
				
			
		
We are rapidly moving toward the celebration of Jesus&#8217; death, and Lent is on our minds for those who observe it. A time in which we make sacrifices to in some way thank God for and identify with the sacrifice Jesus made for us. A time to draw more and more close to Jesus.
For Pastors, [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="tweetmeme_button" style="float: left; margin-right: 10px;">
			<a href="http://api.tweetmeme.com/share?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Fpastors-and-pain%2F"><br />
				<img src="http://api.tweetmeme.com/imagebutton.gif?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Fpastors-and-pain%2F&amp;source=pastorforlife&amp;style=normal" height="61" width="50" /><br />
			</a>
		</div>
<p>We are rapidly moving toward the celebration of Jesus&#8217; death, and Lent is on our minds for those who observe it. A time in which we make sacrifices to in some way thank God for and identify with the sacrifice Jesus made for us. A time to draw more and more close to Jesus.</p>
<p>For Pastors, it can be a challenge to experience seasons like this along with those we lead, especially if we tend to disconnect our personal life from our pastoral role. We all do it in one way or another, whether it&#8217;s because of the mundane routine of ministry life to the over-exaggeration some place upon our role in their life, or numbness from too many painful relationship encounters we&#8217;ve endured in &#8220;the ministry&#8221;. Our challenge lies in knowing why we do it, when we do it, and where its resulting costs need to be reversed in our own lives through the sacrifice of Jesus&#8217; life for US, for YOU, as a person.</p>
<p>Over at Crosswalk.com, Ron Walters has written a thought provoking article on how we manuever through the mine fields of life and ministry. Drink it deep!</p>
<p><span style="font-size: large;">Pastors  and Pain</span><em></em></p>
<p><em><span style="font-size: x-small;">by Ron Walters<br />
Vice President of  Church Relations, Salem Communications</span></em></p>
<p>It may be the most cruel childhood disease of all. A real kid  killer. Familial Dysautonomia attacks only one of 400,000 children, yet  this genetic disorder does so in the most sinister way. It  short-circuits the autonomic nervous system so its victims feel no pain.  On the surface that would appear beneficial. No discomfort? No  suffering? No crying? That&#8217;s great. But that only proves the subtlety of  this heartless killer.</p>
<p>Because an afflicted child feels no  pain, there is no way to know if a bone is broken, an ear is infected,  or a tooth is rotten. The eyes become dry and insensitive to foreign  objects. Burns don&#8217;t register. Cuts go unnoticed. For those who reach  adolescence, 95% have spinal curvature, pneumonia, depression and  constant hypothermia. All for the lack of pain.</p>
<p>Pain can be a  good thing. It serves as nature&#8217;s warning signal. An anatomical flashing  yellow light. A human body with the complete absence of pain makes as  much sense as giving a wristwatch to Venus De Milo. It&#8217;s a nice thought  but it serves no useful purpose.</p>
<p>Pastors are no strangers to  pain. It&#8217;s as familiar as a church bulletin, as common as a potluck. But  I&#8217;m not talking about the pain of those you pray for in hospital rooms.  There&#8217;s plenty of that, to be sure. The pain I&#8217;m referring to is the  Pastor&#8217;s pain.</p>
<p>What pulpiteer hasn&#8217;t felt intense pain from  critiques of certain pew-sitting dragons? Name a pastor who hasn&#8217;t hurt  over unrepented sin, feuds, or heresy within the congregation. Who among  us hasn&#8217;t chaffed over unsigned letters. We vow we&#8217;ll never read them.  But we always do. We even memorize some of the lines.</p>
<p>Some  pastors claim they&#8217;ve developed thick skin &#8211; but that&#8217;s a crock. In most  cases a pastor&#8217;s skin is thinner, more sensitive than the average.  That&#8217;s why you&#8217;re in this work. It was that tender heart that wanted to  serve others. It was your soft soul that jumped when God came calling  for volunteers. No, this is not an industry of thick skins. Hard work?  You bet. High expectations? Yep. Larger than average egos? Probably. But  thick skin? Not-a-one. The pain you feel is real and it serves an  important purpose. God intended it to.</p>
<p>The New Testament&#8217;s most  common word for pain is Basanos, an Oriental word meaning a touchstone. A  touchstone was a fine-textured velvety black variety of quartz. This  very dense stone was used in ancient days to assay gold ore. It&#8217;s still  one of the most reliable methods. A strong-armed goldsmith would rub  pure gold firmly against the flat touchstone leaving a golden colored  steak. Then the suspect alloy would be struck repeatedly beside the  golden mark. After rinsing away the broken debris, the two colors would  be compared and the alloy would be determined to be authentic or fake.  Being shattered against the touchstone was harsh but effective in  finding true gold.</p>
<p>Some of us are, no doubt, going through that  process now. Repeated blows on a touchstone tend to discourage even the  best of pastors. The enduring pain may seem unfair and needless. But  God&#8217;s methods have always included pain. The cross and the grave served  as Jesus&#8217; touchstone. His pain was undeserved and harsh, but it revealed  pure gold. Paul&#8217;s touchstone was a prison cell. The result? Gold.  David&#8217;s touchstone was a cave. Job&#8217;s was an ash-heap. Daniel felt his in  captivity. Abraham&#8217;s was Mount Moriah. Joseph&#8217;s was a pit. Each was a  personal touchstone; each meant pain, but each produced gold.</p>
<p>Is  it possible to pastor a church without experiencing pain? No. Is it  possible to show your true worth without being pounded on a touchstone?  Evidently not. Is it possible to turn that pain into gold?</p>
<p>What  do you think?</p>
<p>Blessings,</p>
<p style="padding: 0px; margin: 10px 0px 16px;"><em>Ron Walters<br style="padding: 0px; margin: 0px;" />Vice President of Church Relations</em></p>
]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://pastorforlife.org/pastors-and-pain/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>REWORK &#8230; I Gotta Read It! You Do Too!</title>
		<link>http://pastorforlife.org/rework-i-gotta-read-it-you-do-too/</link>
		<comments>http://pastorforlife.org/rework-i-gotta-read-it-you-do-too/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 12 Mar 2010 17:20:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Paul</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Burnout]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Church life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Church people]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Communication]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Creativity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emotional health]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Expectations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Leadership]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pastor]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Things that add life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Things that drain life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[success]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ministry]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pas]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[past]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastor expectations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastor hints]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastor time management]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastoral burnout]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastoral effectiveness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastoral health]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastors]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastors life]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://pastorforlife.org/?p=321</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[
			
				
			
		
I haven&#8217;t read this book yet, but after reading this post at TimSchraeder.com, I will be soon! Thanks for concisely boiling this down for us Tim!
10 Things That Drive Me Crazy About Working for a  Church

I’m nearing the 10-year mark of being a church employee. That  practically makes me a veteran. Ten years, [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="tweetmeme_button" style="float: left; margin-right: 10px;">
			<a href="http://api.tweetmeme.com/share?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Frework-i-gotta-read-it-you-do-too%2F"><br />
				<img src="http://api.tweetmeme.com/imagebutton.gif?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Frework-i-gotta-read-it-you-do-too%2F&amp;source=pastorforlife&amp;style=normal" height="61" width="50" /><br />
			</a>
		</div>
<p>I haven&#8217;t read this book yet, but after reading this post at <a href="http://www.timschraeder.com/2010/03/11/10things/" target="_blank">TimSchraeder.com</a>, I will be soon! Thanks for concisely boiling this down for us Tim!</p>
<h1>10 Things That Drive Me Crazy About Working for a  Church</h1>
<p><span><a id="IDShowCommentLink2870" title="Comment on 10 Things That Drive Me Crazy About Working for a  Church" href="http://www.timschraeder.com/2010/03/11/10things/#idc-container"></a></span></p>
<p>I’m nearing the 10-year mark of being a church employee. That  practically makes me a veteran. Ten years, four churches and millions of  cups of Starbucks later [I’m convinced that’s the drug of choice for  church workers] I’ve had a first hand-look at how the church works [by  work I mean how it functions day-to-day in the church office] and after  reading <a href="http://www.37signals.com/rework">REWORK</a> I’m  convinced we’ve got some things that drive me crazy that need to change.</p>
<p>Before I continue, let me say this: I love what I do. Every single  day [except meeting days] I’m excited to be a part of the life of the  Church. It’s an immense privilege to be able to do what I do and I  wouldn’t trade it for anything…  well, most of the time.</p>
<p>With that… here’s 10 Things That Drive Me Crazy About Working for a  Church</p>
<p><strong> 1. We are really good at burning people out.</strong></p>
<p>For some reason we feel like working long hours against ridiculous  timelines and neglecting our personal lives, health, or families is a  good idea… as long as it’s for God.</p>
<p>Not so much.</p>
<p>The average church employee stays at a church for about 2 years  before they peace out.</p>
<p><em>“It doesn’t pay to be a workaholic. Instead of getting more done  and being on top of your game, you actually start a chain reaction that  results in decreased productivity, poor morale, and lazy decisions. And  don’t forget the inevitable crash that’ll hit you soon enough.”</em></p>
<p>We all need to learn one simple word: NO. Even though something may  be for a great cause, it’s not worth losing your soul to make it happen.<br />
<strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>2. We focus way too much on what we don’t have.<br />
</strong><br />
One of the most common complaints I hear from church staff members has  something to do with what they don’t have.</p>
<p>In the Gospel account of the feeding of the 5,000 all they had to  start with was 5 loves and 2 fish, but in the end, there was more than  enough.<br />
<em><br />
“Constraints are advantages in disguise. Limited resources force you to  make do with what you’ve got. There’s no room for waste. And that forces  you to be creative.”<br />
</em><br />
Celebrate simplicity. Remember God can take nothing and make it into  something.</p>
<p><strong>3. We are afraid of change.</strong></p>
<p>I guarantee we’ve all been a meeting where the phrase, “well we heard  people say _____________ about _____________….”</p>
<p>Fill in the blanks… the music was too loud, they didn’t like that  message, they don’t like this, they don’t like that…</p>
<p>These conversations usually center on a sensitive topic in the  church: change.</p>
<p>And how do we respond? We quickly turn down the volume, change our  minds, or reverse a decision.<br />
<em><br />
“Sometimes you need to go ahead with a decision you believe in, even if  it’s unpopular… remember negative reactions are almost always louder and  more passionate than positive ones… so when people complain… let them  know you’re listening. Show them you’re aware of what they’re saying.  But explain that you’re going to let it go for awhile and see what  happens.”<br />
</em><br />
Give change time and be more concerned with what the voice of God is  saying to you and let that influence you more than the voices of other  people.</p>
<p><strong>4. We use “let me pray about it” as an excuse to get out of  making decisions.<br />
</strong><br />
I absolutely believe it’s important to pray about major decisions that  impact the life of the Church – we shouldn’t move unless we feel God  leading us. But all too often we use the “let me pray about that” card  to delay simple decisions.</p>
<p><em>“Whenever you can, swap “Let’s [pray] about it” for “Let’s decide  on it.” Commit to making decisions. You’re as likely to make a great  call today as you are tomorrow. Don’t make things worse by overanalyzing  and delaying before you even get going.”<br />
</em><br />
Pray about what’s important but don’t sweat the small stuff… just make  the call and ask for forgiveness later if need be.</p>
<p><strong>5. We LOVE meetings.<br />
<span style="font-weight: normal;"><br />
For some reason we love meetings. Planning meetings, prayer meetings,  planning meetings for prayer meetings. I feel like we have entirely too  many and lose valuable time we could be devoting to things that matter. <em> </em></span></strong></p>
<p><em>“Meetings are toxic. If it only takes seven minutes to meet a  meeting’s goal, then that’s all the time you should spend. Don’t stretch  seven into thirty. Think about the time you’re actually losing and ask  yourself if it’s really worth it.”<br />
</em><br />
What’s one meeting you could condense or remove from your schedule? DO  IT!<strong><br />
</strong></p>
<p><strong>6. We try to do way too much.</strong></p>
<p>Most churches are hyperactive and never sleep. We thrive on activity.  The whole “less is more” thing hasn’t sunk in yet.</p>
<p>What if we focused on doing a few things REALLY well l instead of  doing a million things half-aced? &lt;&lt; that’s my PG version</p>
<p><em>“Cut your ambition in half. Lots of things get better as they get  shorter. Getting to great starts by cutting out stuff that’s merely  good.”<br />
</em><br />
What are some good things you’re doing that could be sacrificed for  great things that will make a greater impact?<strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>7. We try to be something we’re not.</strong></p>
<p>If I see one more 40somethings pastor dressed in Abercrombie so help  me…</p>
<p>Ok, but for real… not just pastors but churches in general tend to  have a problem of trying to be something they’re not.</p>
<p><em> “Don’t be afraid to show your flaws. Imperfections are real and  people respond to real. There’s a beauty to imperfection. So talk like  you really talk. Reveal things that others are unwilling to discuss. Be  upfront about your shortcomings. It’s OK if it’s not perfect. You might  not seem professional, but you will seem a lot more genuine.”<br />
<span style="font-style: normal;"><br />
BE YOU!</span></em></p>
<p><strong> 8. We spend too much time looking at other churches.</strong></p>
<p>We spend way too much time looking at what other churches are doing,  be it a church across the country or the church across town. It’s great  to watch and learn from others’ successes, but if you look at other  churches as you competition your focus is waaaay off.</p>
<p><em>“Focus on competitors too much and you will wind up diluting your  own vision. Your chances of coming up with something fresh go way down  when you keep feeding your brain other people’s ideas. You become  reactionary instead of visionary.”</em></p>
<p>Your church has a unique and specific role it’s meant to play in the  life of your community. If your church ceased to exist, what would  people miss? Whatever that is should be where you focus your time and  energy.</p>
<p><strong>9. We worry about people leaving.</strong></p>
<p>We’re quick to cater to the needs [or demands] of people who have  been around for a while instead of focusing the needs of people who are  new.</p>
<p>We should spend more time figuring out how to create a wider front  door instead of focusing on how we can “close the back door”… even if  that means losing people who give us a lot of money [there, I said it].</p>
<p><em> “Scaring away new [people] is worse than losing old [ones]. Make  sure you make it easy for [new] people to get on board. That’s where  your continued growth potential lies. People and situations change. You  can’t be everything to everyone. [Churches] need to be true to a type of  [person] than a specific [person] with changing needs.”</em></p>
<p><strong>10. We don’t feel trusted.</strong></p>
<p>For whatever reason churches tend thrive in a weird culture of  mistrust. It’s not or conducive to a positive working environment. Some  churches have crazy rules, policies and procedures that create layers of  red tape that, while probably well-intentioned, communicate a lack of  trust.</p>
<p><em> “When you treat people like children, you get children’s work.  Yet that’s exactly how a lot of companies treat their employees. When  everything constantly needs approval, you create a culture of  nonthinkers. You create a boss-versus-worker relationship that screams,  ‘I don’t trust you.’”<br />
</em><br />
This is one I don’t have a quick answer to but know it’s something I’ve  experienced and something I hear about consistently from others who are  in the trenches. BUT, I will say working in a church that has a trusting  environment, I’ve never felt so empowered to do my job and that has  fueled my productivity exponentially.</p>
<p><strong> Final Thoughts…<br />
</strong><br />
Church work is tricky but I will say the blessings have far outweighed  the frustrations.</p>
<p>The challenge of being on staff at a church lies in the fact that we  don’t have the option to leave our work at the end of the day.  Our work  is deeply connected to what we believe and to our faith community. It’s  easy to get passionate about what we do because we do is attached to  something that’s incredibly personal to us.  We’ve got to learn the  discipline of drawing boundaries.</p>
<p>While the Church has endured throughout the ages, each generation has  had its unique challenges and opportunities. I believe the challenge  and opportunity facing next generation leaders lies in how we manage and  steward the resources we’ve been blessed with.</p>
<p>We’ve never been more resourced than we are today… which is why  things like REWORK are important for us to latch on to. We don’t need to  change what we do [connecting people to Christ], we need to change how  we work.</p>
<p>My prayer is that we can REWORK and do the work God has called us to  do, not simply by applying business ideas, but by seeking God, being led  by His Spirit and serving the Church with excellence and humility.</p>
<p>“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart…” – Colossians 3:23</p>
<p><a href="http://www.timschraeder.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/reworksigned.jpg"><img title="reworksigned" src="http://www.timschraeder.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/reworksigned.jpg" alt="" width="576" height="210" /></a></p>
<p>This post was inspired by reading <a href="http://www.37signals.com/rework">REWORK</a> by Jason Fried and  David Heinemeier Hansson of <a href="http://www.37signals.com/">37signals</a>.  It’s an important book that I think should be <a href="http://www.timschraeder.com/2010/03/10/rework-required-reading/">required  reading</a> for any next generation church leader.</p>
]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://pastorforlife.org/rework-i-gotta-read-it-you-do-too/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>2</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>What Does Tiger Woods&#8217; Apology Say To Pastors?</title>
		<link>http://pastorforlife.org/what-does-tiger-woods-apology-say-to-pastors/</link>
		<comments>http://pastorforlife.org/what-does-tiger-woods-apology-say-to-pastors/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 19 Feb 2010 18:59:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Paul</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Affairs]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Brokenness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Expectations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Failure]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Leadership]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Marriage]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pastor]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Sex Addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tragedy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[confession]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[deception]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[duplicity]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[influence]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[success]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adultery]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[golf]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastoral failure]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastoral success]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastors]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastors life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastors work]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[recovery]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sex]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sexual addiction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tiger Woods]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tiger Woods statement]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://pastorforlife.org/?p=316</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[
			
				
			
		

You&#8217;ve probably heard enough about Tiger Woods&#8217; sordid lifestyle. I have too. And I have no interest in exploiting any of it.
However, I have a lot of interest, for myself and any other Pastor, in learning from it. I have no interest in analyzing Tiger&#8217;s actions or apology to the nth degree.
Regardless of what any [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="tweetmeme_button" style="float: left; margin-right: 10px;">
			<a href="http://api.tweetmeme.com/share?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Fwhat-does-tiger-woods-apology-say-to-pastors%2F"><br />
				<img src="http://api.tweetmeme.com/imagebutton.gif?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Fwhat-does-tiger-woods-apology-say-to-pastors%2F&amp;source=pastorforlife&amp;style=normal" height="61" width="50" /><br />
			</a>
		</div>
<p style="text-align: center;"><img class="size-full wp-image-318 aligncenter" title="tiger" src="http://pastorforlife.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/tiger1.jpg" alt="tiger" width="480" height="270" /></p>
<p style="text-align: left;">You&#8217;ve probably heard enough about Tiger Woods&#8217; sordid lifestyle. I have too. And I have no interest in exploiting any of it.</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">However, I have a lot of interest, for myself and any other Pastor, in learning from it. I have no interest in analyzing Tiger&#8217;s actions or apology to the nth degree.</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">Regardless of what any of us think about Tiger&#8217;s words or motives, there remain a number of analogous issues between the persona of a famous person and the persona of a Pastor. As Pastors, we are tempted to live two lives, one in public and another in private.</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">It&#8217;s interesting that Tiger mentioned in his statement that he felt &#8220;entitled&#8221; to &#8220;enjoy the temptations around&#8221; him because he had worked so hard all his life.</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">Often, Pastors struggle with that same temptation. We work so hard and for so long that we can be tempted to feel that we are entitled to stretch the boundaries of our behavior, be it in the area of sexuality, financial indiscretions, or anything else.</p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><em>What did you hear Tiger say that could be helpful for Pastors as well?</em></p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><a href="http://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/2010/02/19/tiger-woods-addresses-infidelity-scandal-public-appearance/" target="_blank">Click here for video.</a></p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><a href="http://web.tigerwoods.com/news/article/201002198096934/news/" target="_blank">Click hear for transcript.</a></p>
]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://pastorforlife.org/what-does-tiger-woods-apology-say-to-pastors/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>1</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>The Dark Side of Ministry</title>
		<link>http://pastorforlife.org/the-dark-side-of-ministry/</link>
		<comments>http://pastorforlife.org/the-dark-side-of-ministry/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Nov 2009 06:17:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Paul</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Anxiety]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Brokenness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Change]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Church life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Church people]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Depression]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emotional health]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Expectations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Failure]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Leadership]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pastor]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Spiritual health]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Things that drain life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tragedy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[death]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[grief]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Milfred Minitrea]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Missional Church Center]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pastor David Treadway]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pastors]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Sandy Ridge Baptist Church]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://pastorforlife.org/?p=305</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[
			
				
			
		
Milfred Minitrea of the Missional Church Center, wrote a powerful post on his blog that I think deals with the dark side of ministry and how Pastors are constantly dealing with the issue of congregational change management and ministry effectiveness.
In His post called, &#8220;Depression: Pastors In Pain&#8221;, he writes:
David Treadway, pastor of Sandy Ridge Baptist [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="tweetmeme_button" style="float: left; margin-right: 10px;">
			<a href="http://api.tweetmeme.com/share?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Fthe-dark-side-of-ministry%2F"><br />
				<img src="http://api.tweetmeme.com/imagebutton.gif?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Fthe-dark-side-of-ministry%2F&amp;source=pastorforlife&amp;style=normal" height="61" width="50" /><br />
			</a>
		</div>
<p><a href="http://twitter.com/missionalchurch" target="_blank">Milfred Minitrea</a> of the <a href="http://missional.org/" target="_blank">Missional Church Center</a>, wrote a powerful post on <a href="http://missionalchurchcenter.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">his blog</a> that I think deals with the dark side of ministry and how Pastors are constantly dealing with the issue of congregational change management and ministry effectiveness.</p>
<p>In His post called, <a href="http://missionalchurchcenter.blogspot.com/2009/11/who-counsels-pastors.html" target="_blank">&#8220;Depression: Pastors In Pain&#8221;</a>, he writes:</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">David Treadway, pastor of Sandy Ridge Baptist Church in Hickory, North Carolina committed suicide in September. His tragic death is the fourth pastor suicide in the Carolinas during the past four years. Pastor Treadway was undergoing treatment for depression. In a <a href="http://www.usatoday.com/news/religion/2009-10-28-pastor_suicides_N.htm" target="_blank">USA Today article published October 29, 2009</a>, Greg Warner addressed depression among pastors. He wrote, <span style="font-style: italic;">“Most depression does not lead to suicide, but almost all suicides begin with depression.”</span></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">The article identified impossible role expectations often placed upon pastors, together with their innate resistance to seek help when they become depressed. They fear, too often appropriately, that congregational leaders would understand their depression to be a failure of faith rather than an illness to be treated. So, pastors suffer alone while trying to care for others.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">Matthew Stanford, a professor of psychology and neuroscience at Baylor University in Waco, Texas said<span style="font-style: italic;"> “The likelihood is that one out of every four pastors is depressed.&#8221;</span> Further, <span style="font-style: italic;">“Anxiety and depression in the pulpit are &#8220;markedly higher&#8221; in the last five years&#8230;The current economic crisis has caused many of our pastors to go into depression.&#8221;</span></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">The author clearly cited the economic environment as a primary cause. Then he added, <span style="font-style: italic;">“Besides the recession&#8217;s strain on church budgets, <span style="font-weight: bold;">depressed pastors increasingly report frustration over their congregations&#8217; resistance to cultural change.</span>”</span> When I read those words, a passing comment on a secondary cause of depression in the article, my heart leaped. For that is precisely what I repeatedly hear from pastors across North America.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">“My congregation wants to return to the way things used to be. They are unwilling to accept the reality of cultural changes in our world. Further, they perceive culture, “the way we do things” as sacred. Even when those things are no longer working, they say we should just try to do them better. And when those old methods are not successful, the failure is perceived as being the fault of the pastoral staff. They are unwilling to allow our congregational culture to change so that we can be more relevant among a changing population.” This resistance to change is sometimes public. At other times it skims just beneath the surface like a private torpedo locked on target, ready to do massive destruction.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">As pastors understand the marginalization of Christianity in contemporary culture, consequently perceiving the requisite adaptation of the church toward an incarnational missionary posture, their passion to lead toward such culture shifts is often met with resistance. Leading a conventional congregation to perceive the need for change is a massive undertaking, a challenge that will often result in things getting worse before they get better. Those who cannot accept the need for internal congregational change will voice opposition. Those who support internal change will then find themselves defending the need for change. Repeatedly I have seen the dialogue move from the issue of “changing the way we do things” to challenges of personal loyalty within the congregation. Instead of conflict about process, the conflict becomes personal.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">In those moments, pastors are caught in the untenable position of loving, serving, and leading a flock that has become divided. I can recall the deep pain of having a man whom I loved dearly, but who did not agree with new directions in ministry, unleash a barrage of vindictive verbal assaults. He was mad. Plain and simple. And his words were not filled with grace in that instance. His words were fiery darts. I felt the darts tear through my heart, a heart that had given eight years of pastoral care to our flock. In my own immaturity I tried to reason with him while he was still angry. I so wanted to please. To make it all right. And when I could not, I walked away wounded. When I was alone, I wept bitterly. Over the next weeks, I was too bruised and weak to continue to lead toward the kind of changes that needed to be made in order for effective ministry to continue. And I walked into a dark night that lasted for months.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">Ultimately I found solace through the counsel of Ken Sharp, the tallest Christian counselor I have ever known, who became a dear friend in ministry. Further, I warmed to my own condition as I read Don Baker and Emery Nester’s, <span style="font-style: italic;">Depression: Finding Hope and Meaning in Life’s Darkest Shadow</span>, a wonderful treatment published by Multnomah Press. Not nearly every pastor is blessed with an understanding friend and counselor. Many do not find voices to accompany them through their pain.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">As North American churches struggle in a changed and changing culture, the role of pastoral leadership is challenging. We constantly encounter brothers and sisters in ministry who are walking a tightrope as they lead. It is highly improbable that they will be able to walk the tightrope, lead toward a new way of being church in a changing culture, and keep everybody happy in the process. I pray that we can be fellow pilgrims on their journey offering support and encouragement where we can. And sometimes, our greatest help may be simply to walk with them through the darkness.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">One thing I know. We must not let those who are suffering walk the path alone.</p>
<p>Having been diagnosed myself with clinical depression myself, and continuing to struggle through its seasonal ups and downs, I know some of what Milfred speaks. I particularly appreciate his perspective on how Pastors are impacted by leading a congregation toward effective ministry in cultural seas change.</p>
<p>Change is an interesting animal, and when a Pastor sees it occurring and senses God-given vision to lead the church to be more effective in it, the opposition that sometimes comes from the most well-meaning people can be overwhelming. Thus, our need to be in continual fellowship and receiving encouragement from fellow Pastors walking through change as well.</p>
<p><em>Thoughts? Whether about depression, leading through change, or both?</em></p>
]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://pastorforlife.org/the-dark-side-of-ministry/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>8</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Defining Success</title>
		<link>http://pastorforlife.org/defining-success/</link>
		<comments>http://pastorforlife.org/defining-success/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 06 Nov 2009 02:10:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Paul</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Expectations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Leadership]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pastor]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[success]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Ministry Toolbox]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rick Warren]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://pastorforlife.org/?p=302</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[
			
				
			
		
Success is such a vague concept in Pastoral life. For ages, we&#8217;ve defined it by numbers. Whatever numbers we could produce.

Numbers of people
Numbers of dollars
Numbers of buildings
Numbers of salvations
Numbers of baptisms.

You number it and we&#8217;ll count it in the final tally!
For the last &#8220;number&#8221; of years, many well-known Pastors have tried to re-define success by [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="tweetmeme_button" style="float: left; margin-right: 10px;">
			<a href="http://api.tweetmeme.com/share?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Fdefining-success%2F"><br />
				<img src="http://api.tweetmeme.com/imagebutton.gif?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Fdefining-success%2F&amp;source=pastorforlife&amp;style=normal" height="61" width="50" /><br />
			</a>
		</div>
<p>Success is such a vague concept in Pastoral life. For ages, we&#8217;ve defined it by numbers. Whatever numbers we could produce.</p>
<ul>
<li>Numbers of people</li>
<li>Numbers of dollars</li>
<li>Numbers of buildings</li>
<li>Numbers of salvations</li>
<li>Numbers of baptisms.</li>
</ul>
<p>You number it and we&#8217;ll count it in the final tally!</p>
<p>For the last &#8220;number&#8221; of years, many well-known Pastors have tried to re-define success by saying that God cares more about faithfulness than He does &#8220;success&#8221;. Others have said that faithfulness IS &#8220;success&#8221;.</p>
<p>I appreciate the comment Rick Warren had on his <a href="http://www.pastors.com/blogs/ministrytoolbox/pages/issue-399.aspx" target="_blank">Ministry Toolbox</a>:</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>“Today, by the Spirit’s power, I’ll do the best I can with what I have out of love for Jesus. That’s my definition of success.”</em></p>
<p>What do you think? What&#8217;s YOUR definition of success as a Pastor?</p>
]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://pastorforlife.org/defining-success/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>3</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Rest That Sleep Can&#8217;t Provide</title>
		<link>http://pastorforlife.org/rest-sleep-cant-provide/</link>
		<comments>http://pastorforlife.org/rest-sleep-cant-provide/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 05 Nov 2009 01:22:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Paul</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Burnout]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Church life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Emotional health]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Margin]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pace of life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pastor]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Personal Pace]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Physical health]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rest]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Sabbath]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Sabbaticals]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Spiritual health]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Study & Planning Breaks]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Things that give life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sleep]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Josh Patterson]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Matt Chandler]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[The Village Church]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://pastorforlife.org/?p=297</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[
			
				
			
		
Josh Patterson, Executive Pastor at The Village Church in Highland Village, Texas, wrote this great post recently on the topic of real rest &#8230;
I spent the last two weeks away from work and one of those weeks in Jamaica on vacation. I had no agenda and not a lot of responsibility. I didn’t have e-mails [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="tweetmeme_button" style="float: left; margin-right: 10px;">
			<a href="http://api.tweetmeme.com/share?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Frest-sleep-cant-provide%2F"><br />
				<img src="http://api.tweetmeme.com/imagebutton.gif?url=http%3A%2F%2Fpastorforlife.org%2Frest-sleep-cant-provide%2F&amp;source=pastorforlife&amp;style=normal" height="61" width="50" /><br />
			</a>
		</div>
<p>Josh Patterson, Executive Pastor at <a href="http://hv.thevillagechurch.net/" target="_blank">The Village Church</a> in Highland Village, Texas, wrote this great post recently on the topic of real rest &#8230;</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">I spent the last two weeks away from work and one of those weeks in Jamaica on vacation. I had no agenda and not a lot of responsibility. I didn’t have e-mails to return, no pressure to return calls or make meetings. My most pressing decision was which book to read. It really was a great couple of weeks.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">But, there is a kind of rest that sleep cannot provide. There is a kind of rest that a vacation or time away from work doesn’t produce.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">During my time away, I reflected on the nature of rest and what is necessary to quiet the soul and rejuvenate the spirit. I was reminded of three things: 1) sleep always helps, but is not the panacea. It is important for me to have adequate sleep each night in order to function optimally. That said, sleep alone doesn’t cure a tired soul; 2) time away from the normal routine allows me to disconnect, but doesn’t ensure I will connect with the Lord. I can turn off my phone and e-mails to help quiet my mind. This is necessary and beneficial. It was great for me to simply engage with my family and not consider all the responsibilities at work. That said, time away and a vacation means that you will have to face your weary soul either at your house or on vacation. Your heart goes with you; 3) the rest that revives and rejuvenates is the rest that is promised in the gospel. God has promised His children that we can cast our cares on Him because He cares for us. He has promised His children that He is greater than the world. He has promised to exchange my burdens for His easiness. He has promised His children that there is contentment and peace in His promises. So, in the gospel of Jesus Christ I am promised rest today and for all eternity.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">In the end, I am reminded that most nights I can make a decision to get adequate sleep. Each day, I can do the necessary things to unplug and disconnect from work. Each week, I am afforded a day that is completely and wholly undivided for the sole purpose of rest, worship and connection with the Lord. Vacation and time away has reminded me that rest is a grace I overlook daily. And, that’s the kind of rest that I truly need.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><a title="Rest that sleep can’t provide" rel="bookmark" href="http://hv.thevillagechurch.net/blog/hvpastor/?p=343"></a></p>
<p><!-- end entry --></p>
]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://pastorforlife.org/rest-sleep-cant-provide/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
	</channel>
</rss>
